By: Ella Jespersen, VP of Clinical Services, KOTM
“Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.” Words shape how we see ourselves and how the world sees us. They can uplift, empower, and connect—or they can wound, exclude, and diminish. Some language choices may seem like a matter of preference, but others carry weight, shaping experiences in ways we may not realize. The words we choose matter more than we think.
Understanding Inclusive Language
Inclusive language involves choosing words and expressions that respect the dignity and identities of all people, especially those from marginalized or diverse groups. In the context of autism, this means being mindful of how we refer to individuals on the spectrum, acknowledging their preferences, and avoiding terms that may be offensive or reductive.
Person-First vs. Identity-First Language
Language plays a powerful role in shaping how we view and respect individuals in the autism community. One ongoing discussion centers around person-first language (“person with autism”) versus identity-first language (“autistic person”). Person-first language places the individual before their diagnosis, emphasizing that they are more than their autism. In contrast, identity-first language acknowledges autism as an integral part of a person’s identity—something inseparable from who they are.
Many self-advocates prefer identity-first language, seeing autism as a core part of their experience and identity. Organizations like the Autistic Self Advocacy Network promote terms like “Autistic” or “Autistic person,” believing that this language fosters pride and a sense of belonging. However, preferences vary from person to person. Some individuals and families feel more comfortable with person-first language, and that choice should always be honored. The most important thing is to listen, respect individual preferences, and use language that affirms dignity and inclusion.
The Impact of Language on Perception
The words we choose shape the way society views autism and those on the spectrum. They can either break down barriers or reinforce harmful stereotypes. Using language that is accurate, respectful, and inclusive creates a culture of understanding and belonging. Small changes—like avoiding terms that marginalize or pathologize autism—can make a big difference in fostering acceptance.
Language doesn’t just influence how others see individuals with autism; it also impacts how they see themselves. When we use inclusive language, we validate experiences, affirm identities, and empower individuals to embrace who they are. On the other hand, exclusionary or insensitive language can create feelings of isolation or diminish self-worth. Thoughtful language is more than just words—it’s a way to build a more accepting world.
Avoiding Ableist Language
The words we use can either uplift or exclude, and ableist language—words or phrases that demean people with disabilities—can contribute to stigma and misunderstanding. Terms like “crazy” or “insane” may seem harmless in everyday conversation, but they reinforce negative stereotypes about mental health and neurodiversity. By being mindful of the language we use, we create a more respectful and inclusive space where all individuals feel valued and understood.
The Role of Intersectionality
True inclusivity goes beyond just one aspect of identity. Language should reflect the diverse experiences of individuals within the autism community, taking into account factors such as race, culture, gender, and socioeconomic background. Acknowledging these intersecting identities ensures that our words foster belonging not just for autistic individuals, but for the whole spectrum of experiences that shape who they are. Thoughtful, inclusive language helps build a world where everyone is seen, heard, and respected.
Practical Steps to Embrace Inclusive Language
- Educate Yourself: Learn about the preferred terminology within the autism community and stay informed about evolving language practices.
- Ask and Listen: When in doubt, ask individuals how they prefer to be addressed and respect their choices.
- Reflect on Your Language: Regularly assess the words and phrases you use, and be open to making changes to align with inclusive practices.
- Challenge Others: Encourage those around you to use inclusive language and explain its importance when necessary.
- Promote Inclusive Policies: Advocate for the adoption of inclusive language in organizational materials, educational settings, and public communications.
Conclusion
Words are powerful. They shape how we see each other, how we see ourselves, and how society treats individuals with autism. The language we use can build bridges of understanding or create barriers that exclude. By choosing words that respect, empower, and celebrate neurodiversity, we help create a world where every individual is seen for their strengths and potential.
At Kids on the Move, we believe that true inclusion starts with how we speak and how we listen. When we commit to using thoughtful, inclusive language, we create a culture where every child and family feels valued and understood. Let’s be intentional with our words—because the way we speak about autism has the power to shape a more accepting and inclusive future for all.